注 脚
第一篇
第一章
1.USAToday（Oct.12,1984）,P.10A.
2"LotofWomenGrinningandBearingIt",USAToday（Jan.15,1985）,p.1.
3LeslieLinthicum,"TheHugortheWholeThing?",TheHous-tonPost（Jan.16,1985）.
4USAToday（Janl5,1985）,p.1.
5DorothyT.Sanuel,Love,LiberationandMarriage（NewYork:FunkandWagnalls,1976）,Preface.
6RolloMay,LoveandWill（NewYork:DellPublishingCo.,1969）,p.4o.
7WilliamH.Masters,VirginiaE.Johnson,ThePleasureBond（NewYork:BantamBooks,1976）,pp.113-114.
8USAToday（Oct.12,1984）,p.10A.
9USAToday（Oct.12,1984）,p.10A.
第二章
1EvelynDuvallandRuebenHill,WhenYOuMarry（NewYork:AssociationPress,1948）,p.1.
2DuvallandHill,WhenYouMarry,p.26.
3ElorG.Nelson,YourLifeTogether（Rlchmond:JohnKnoxPress,1967）p.18.
4BobPhinips,AHumorousLookAtLoveMarriage（Eugene,OR:HarvestHousePublishers,1981）,pp.54-77.
第三章
1MattClark,"TheSex-TherapyRevolution,"Newsweek（Nov.17,198O）,p.98.
2"IamLoved"byWm.J.andGloriaGaither.Copyright1978byWm.J.Gaither.Allrightsreserved.Usedbypermis-sion.
3C.S.Lewis,TheScrewtapeLetters(MacmillanPublishingCo.,NewYork,NY,1961）；p.64.
第四章
1ClaireSafran,"TroublesthatPullCouplesApart"Redbook（January,1979）,p.83；
2TerriSchultz,"DoesMarreageGiveToday-sWomenWhatTheyReallyWant?"LadiesHomeJournal（June,1980）,pp.90,150.
3CarlaStephens,"50QuestionsBeforeYorSay,-IDo-"ChristianLife（September,1979）,p.26.
4HerbertAGlieberman,"WhySoManyMarriagesFail,"U.S.A.News＆WorldReport（Ju1y20,1981）,p.54.
5USAToday（Octoberl2,1984）,p.11A.
6MarilynElias,"Affairs:WomenLookForIntimacy,"USAToday（Nov.6,1984）,p.1D.
7H.NormanWright,Communication:KeyToYourMarriage（VenturaCA:RegalBooks,1979）,p.52
8DwightSmall,AfterYou-veSaidIDo（OldTappan,NJ:Flem-ingH.Revell,1968）,p.51.
9CynthiaDeutsch,"TheDangersofASilentPartner,"Parents（Oct.,1979）,p.24.
10HamletActi,SC.3,1.68.
11RechardB.Austin,Jr.,HowToMakeItWithAnoteherPerson（NewYork:MacMillanPublishingCo.,1976）,p.93
12DavidAugsburger,FreedomofForgiveness（Chicago:MoodyPress,1973）,p.87.
13DavidAuhsburger,CaringEnoughToHearandBeHeard（Ventura,CA；RegalBooks,1982）,p.104.
14H.NormanWright,MoreCommunicationKeysToYourMarriage（Ventura,CA:RegalBooks,1983）,p.89.
15MichelleSandlass,"ThePowerofaHappyPositiveSelf-Im-age."Glamour（Jan.,1979）,p.12O。
16Dr.DavidAugsburger,CaringEnoughToHearandBeHeard（Ventura,CA:ReaglBooks,1982）,pp.148-150.
17JoyceLandorf,ToughandTender（OldTappan,NJ:F1emingH.RevellCo.,1975）,p.76
第五章
1H.NormanWright,MoreCommunicationkeysForYourMarriage（Ventura,CA:RegalBooks,1983）,p.9O.
2DavidAugsburger,CaringEnoughTOHearandBeHeard（Ventura,CA:RegalBooks,1982）,p.74.
3RlchardStrauss,MarriageIsFOrLove（Wheaton,IL:TyndaleHousePublishers,1979）,p.87.
4GeorgeE.andNikkiKocher,MyFamily:HowshallILiveWithIt（Chicago,IL:RandMcNally＆Co.,1968）,p.27.
5JodyGaylin,"First-YearFights,"Glamour（Dec.,1979）,p.26.
6J.AllenPetersen,BeforeYOuMarry（Wheaton,IL:TyndaleHousePublishers,Inc.,1974）,p.43.
7DavidR.Mace,GettingReadyForMarriage（NewYork:AbingdonPress,1972）.p71.
8Wright,MoreCommunication,pp.127-128.
9LeoBuscagliainUSAToday（Octoberl2,1984）,p.11A.
10MargaretLane,"AreYouReallyListening?"Reader-sDisgest（Nov.,1980）,p.183.
11RlchardL.Strauss,MarriageIsForLove,p.86.
12H.NormanWright,ThePillarsOfMarriage（Ventura,CA:RegalBooks,1979）,p.86.
13H.NormanWright,CommunicatiOn:KeyToYourMarriage（Ventura,CA:RegalBooks,1974）,p.150.
第六章
1DavidAugsburger,CaringEnoughtoHearAndBeHeard（Ventura,CA:RegalBooks,1982）,p.20
第七章
1TimLaHaye,"HowToLiveHappioyEver,"ChristianLife（Sept.,1979）,p.26.
2RichardStrauss,MarriageIsForLove（Wheaton,IL:TyndaleHousePublishing,1979）,p.95-96.
3HalLinsay,TheLiberationofPlanetEarth（GrandRapids:ZondervanPublishingHouse,1974）,pp.170,172.
第八章
1RichardStrauss,MarriageIsForLove（Wheaton,IL:TyndaleHousePublishing,1979）,p.17.
2GretchenKurz,"SexualLiberation;IsItWorththeHasle?"Mademoiselle（Augustl977）,pp.207-8.
3LonnieBarbachandLindaLevine,"HowtoTurnGoodSexIntoGreatSex,"Mademoiselle（October,198O）,p.207.
第九章
1SallyWendkosOlds,"DoYouHaveWhatItTakesTOMakeAGoodMarriage?"Ladies’HomeJournal（October,198O）,p.202.
2DavidR.Mace,"WhatMakesAGoodMarriage?"FamilyGuideToGoodLiving（Woodbury:BobleyPublishingCorp.,1977）,p.175.
3H.G.ZerofPitfallsOfRomanticLove（n.p.,n.d.）,p.166.
4DavidBogard,"MamageMadeInHeaven,"Decision（June,1981）,p.8.
第十章
1HerbertJ.Miles,SesualUnderstandingBeforeMarriage（GrandRapids:ZondervanPliblishingHouse,1971）,p.197.
2E1ofG.NelsonYourLifeTogether（Richmond:JohnKnoxPress,1976）,p.20.
3DavidR.Mace,GettingReadyForMarriage（NewYork:AbingdonPress,1972）,p.45.
第十一章
1SallyWendkosOlds,"DoYouHaveWhatItTakesTOMakeAGoodMarriage?"LadiesHomeJournal（Oct.,1980）,pp.76-78,202-204.
2LornaandPhillpSarrei,eds.,"TheRedbookReportOnSexualRelationships:AMajOrNewSurveyofMoreThan26,OOOWOmenAndMen,"Redbook（Oct.,1980）,pp.76-77
3NatalieGittelson,"HappilyMarriedWomen:HowTheyGotThatWay,HOwTheyStayThatWay,"McCalls（Feb.,1980）.p.36.
4GeorgeA.HughstonandMichaelJ.Sporakowski,"Prescrip-tionsFormarriage:AdjustmentsandSatisfactionsofCouplesMarriedfor50orMoreYears,"theFami1yCoordina-tor（Oct.,1978）,p.323.
5RobertB.Taylor,quotedin"BehindTheSurgeInBrokenMarriages,"U.S.News＆WorldReport（Jan22,1979）,p.52.
6DaVidMilofsky,"WhatMakesAgoodFamily,"Redbook（Aug.,1981）,pp.60,62.
7EvelynMillisDuval1,BuildingYourmarriageTheFamilyGuideTOGoodLiving（Woodbury:BobleyPublishingCorp.,1877）,p.68.
8JamesRobison,"SurveyHintsReligionMayAidSexualEnjOy-ment,"ChicagoTribune（n.d.,n.p.）
9HerbertJ.MilesSexualUnderstandingBdforeMarriage,PP.76-78.［ForDr.Milesbasesforhisresearch,seehisbookSex-ualHappinessinMamage,AppendixI,p.131;AppendixII,pp.132-146.］
10JoshMcDowell,HisImageMyImage（SanBernardino:Here-sLifePublishers,Inc.,1984）,pp,126-129.
11J.AllenPetersen,BeforeYOuMarry（Wheaton,TyndaleHousePublishing,1974）,p.28.
第十二章
1DonOsgood,ChristianHerald（Decemberl976）
2DpdDigestIBMCorporation
第十三章
1TerriSchultz,"DoesMarriageGiveToday-sWOmenWhatTheyReallyWant?"Ladies’HomeJournal（June,198O）,p.91.
2UrbanG.SteinmetzandBernardR.Weise,EverythingYouNeedTOKnowtOStayMarriedAndLikeIt（GrandRapids:ZondervanPublishingHouse,1972）,p.143.
3PersonalletterfromLarryBurkett,Dec.,1984.
4Ibid.
5Dr.JohnMacArthur,Ju.,from"masteringMaterialism"studynotes.
第二篇
引言
1Eve1ynDuvallandReubenHill,BeforeYouMarry,（NewYork:AssociationPress,1959）p.36.
第十五章
1H.NormanWrightThePillarsOfMarriage（Ventura,CA:Re-galBooks,1979）,pp.41-42.
2EvelynDuvall,"MatureEnoughTOMarry,"TheMarriageAffair（wheaton:TyndaleHousePublishers,1971）,p.17.
3BenA.Ard,Jr.,andConstanceC.Ard,HandbookOfMar-Counsering（PaloAlto:ScienceandBehaviorBooks,Inc.）,p.289.
4JerryAdler,"TheScienceofLove,"Newsweek,（Feb.25,1980）,p.89.
5KennethWoodward,"WhatthePopeIsReallySayingAboutSexAndmarriage,"McCalls（April,1981）,p.192.
6HowardHendricks,"YardseticdsforLove"（lecturenotes）,p.25.
7GeorgeF.Gilder,SexualSuicide（NewYork:Quadrangle,1973）,p.72.
第十六章
1Eve1ynDuvallandReubenHill,WhenYouMarry（NewYork:AssociationPress,1948）,p.35.
2Dr.RrichardStraussMarriageIsForLove（wheatOn,IL:Tyn-daleHousePublishers,1979）,p.35.
3ElofG.NelsonYourLifeTogether（Richmond:JohnKnoxPress,1967）,pp.68-69.
4C.S.LewisTheFOurLoves（NewYork:Fontana,1963）,p.104F.
第十七章
1LarryChristenson,TheChristianFamily（Minneapolis:BethanyFellowship,Inc.,1970）,pp.27-28.
2StanleyL.Englebardt,"WhatIsThisThingcalledLove?"Reader-sDigest（June,1980）,p.109。
3JohnPowell,WhyAmIAfraidToLove?（Niles:ArgusCom.munications,1972）,pp.25,27.
4AlbertLeeandCarolAIlmanLee,TheTotalcouple（Dayton:LorenzPress,1977）,pp.75-76
5MadoraHolt,"ThesecretsBehindSuccessfulMarriages,"ChristianScienceMonitor（October5,1978）,p.17.
第十八章
1GaryInrig,QualttyFriendship（Chicago:MoodyPress,1981）,pp.156-157.
2Inrig,Friendship,p.156-157.
3KennethS.Wuest,TheNewTestament,AnExpandedTransla-tion（GrandRapids,Erdmans,1981）,P.407.AdditionaIReferences:TheChristianHome,"WalkingInLove,"pp.16-18.
第十九章
1WalterTrobisch,ILovedAGirl（NewYork:Harper＆Row,1963）,p.25.
2HenryBrandt,WhenATeenFallsInLove（GrandRapids:Zondervan,n.d.）,p.27.
第廿章
1EvelynDuvallandReubenHill,BeforeYoumarry（NewYork:AssociaticrnPress,1959）,p.33.
2CharlesR.Swindoll,Comitment:TheKeyToMarriage(Port-land:MultnomahPress,1981),P.15.
3FrankO.C.x,HumanIntimacy:Marriage,TheFamilyanditsMeanting(St.Paul:WestPubilshingCo.,1984),P.118.
4LawrenceCrabb,Jr.,TheMarriageBuilder(GrandRapids:ZondervanPublishingHouse,1982),PP.33-34
5HermanWeissandJudyDvais,HowToGetMarried(NewYord:BallantineBooks,1983),P.12.
6NatalieGittelson,"HappilyMarriedWomen:HowTheyGotThatWay,HowTheyStayThayWay,"McCall-s(Feb.,1980),P.36.
7FradkO.Cox,AmericanWaysOfLove(LosAngeles:WestPublishingCo.,1978),P.79.
8H.NormanWright,PillarsOfMarriage(Ventura,CA:RegalBooks,1979),p.44.
第廿一章
1H.NormanWrightandMarvinInmon,AGuidebookToDat-ing,Waiting,AndChoosingAMate(Irvine:HarvestHousePublishers,1978),p.17.
2HaroldJ.Sala,"20CommandmentsForABetterMarriage,"ChristianLife(Jan.1979),p.53
第廿二章
1AlbertLeeandCarolAllmanLee,TheTotalCouple(Dayton:LorenzPress,1977),p.54.
2KathleenFury,"SexandtheAmericanTeenager,"LadiesHomeJournal(March,1980),p.159.
3WalterTrobisch,ILovedAGirl(NewYork:Harper＆Row,1963),p.4.
4Dr.RichardL.Strauss,MarriageIsForLove(Wheaton,IL:TyndaleHousePublishers,1979),p.34-35
第廿三章
1RobertB.Taylor,"BehindTheSurgeInBrokenMarriages,"U.S.News＆WorldReport(Jan.22,1979),p.53.
2Ibid.
3CharlesR.Swindoll,Commitment:TheKeyToMarriage(Port-land:MultnomahPress,1981),p.18.
4.Swindoll,Commitment,p.18.
第廿四章
1DavidGelman,"HowMarriagesCanLast,"Newsweek(July13,1981),p.73.